So, my friend and I were just talking about how there are no interesting, open minded and unique people on here and then today I stumble across your profile – you seem like a pretty cool individual… much more than most on here. You seem like a free spirit and that is very much what I am looking for right now. I also love how intelligent and self-sufficient you seem to be – you really seem to be very responsible and the fact that you love your kids as much as you do speaks volumes to what kind of girl you are. I don’t think I have ever seen someone express how fun yet responsible they can be as well as you did in your profile, super mom! 🙂
On a side note, that upclose face pic in your profile is amazing – you legit look like an angel when you smile. I’m being 100% honest when I say this, but regardless of whether you reply to my message or not, please just know that your profile pictures paired with reading about what a warm and kind person you are truly did make my bad day a lot better.
The trophy for best pic goes to the farther out pic of you with that amazing smile! Wow!
Lastly, I feel you should know I am a Dominant personality type and you seem like you may share the same kinks as myself… which.. I find very intriguing and feel would make for even more interesting scenarios – not going to lie, your survey answers kind of surprised me! It’s not often you find someone into that type of thing in this area, but I know they’re out there somewhere!
And no, don’t worry – I’m not just out for sex or whatever, I just wanted to tell you about my lifestyle ahead of time so that didn’t come as a shock later on if we do end up talking.
Most people around here are so single-layered, so please do me the honor of getting to know you – you seem like such an interesting and fun person to know!
I really, truly hope to hear back from you. It’s so rare I find someone actually work talking to on this site. Feel free to kik me if you have kik *&^*&%$#^&016
You really are so real and so pleasant. Let’s talk.
Did this just overwhelm you? Because it sure did me. I received this message on OKC about a month ago and normally when I get a message of that length, I chalk it up to a man just copying and pasting the same message to a number of women, hoping someone will respond and I simply delete it. But this guy’s profile intrigued me, so I messaged him back and pretty much asked him if it was a “form letter”. He responded pretty quickly with an equally lengthy message explaining that no, it was not a “form letter” and pointing out more about my profile and answers to some of the questions that he liked. I still didn’t believe him but I was still intrigued by some of his responses so I continued to message him. We messaged for a few days and I enjoyed our conversations. And then one day, I logged in and his profile was deleted. WTF?!
I can’t say I was surprised, that seems to happen with these mysterious men who probably aren’t even real. I’ve heard about men getting the same type of messages from accounts that turn out to be fake, I don’t get it. What is the allure of all this? Has anyone else had the same experiences of what I’m assuming is fake profiles?
I’ve been using Bumble for a couple months. A friend turned me onto it with the allure that I would have control over who contacts me.
Unlike some women, I don’t mind taking control. I don’t mind reaching out first.
I’ve been on and off Tinder for about two years now and it always disappoints me. I revealed to my little brother, Red’s girlfriend (they met on Tinder) the other week that I had over a hundred matches and she couldn’t believe the sheer number. But here’s the problem, out of those 100+ matches maybe a dozen actually started a conversation with me. Do you know how depressing it is to have a hundred men in the palm of your hand and none can hold a conversation?!
“Bumble is redefining dating rules.” – Cosmopolitan
A breakdown of Bumble (heterosexual):
- You swipe potential matches.
- Once you match, the female has 24 hours to send a message.
- After initial message is sent, the male has 24 hours to respond.
- If the messages are not sent in the time frame the match disappears.
I enjoy this type of online matching. It keeps my “que of matches” clean and only the men who are truly interested in chatting stick around.
This week they have added some features to Bumble.
- You can buyback expired connections.
- You can purchase unlimited 24 hour extensions.
- You can sort through matches who have already swiped right on you.
These just sound like ways to get you to spend money on the app but it’s nice to have the opportunity to get back a match that you let expire.
If you’re not afraid to make the first move, give Bumble a try.
These are my only my opinions, I am not associated with this app in any way.
Exploring online dating apps
A Whole New World of Dating
As a working, single, thirty-something mom how do you find time to date?
And when you have those precious hours, where do you go? The bar scene seems so depressing and the club scene is too loud.
For me, I would rather have a date lined up, allowing me to enjoy those precious hours of free time instead of stressing over where to go and what to do. Enter online dating!!
There are dozens of online dating apps, where do you begin? I say, pick one
(or two) and give it at least 2 weeks before throwing in the towel or trying another. Here are my tips on how to make the most out of online dating.
- Upload pictures. Make your main picture stand out. DO NOT POST A
GROUP PIC AS YOUR MAIN PHOTO. The guy isn’t playing “Where’s Waldo?” A headshot is completely acceptable as long as you also have
at least one full body shot. Let the guys know what you’re working with, trust me, they want to see it. Don’t be slutty, find attractive, well
put together photos that show off who you really are. You don’t show up to a first date in sweats and no makeup, leave those pictures out of
your dating profile.
- Don’t skimp on the details. Fill out all the boxes! I despise a profile
that isn’t filled out. If it asks you what you’re looking for, answer honestly. Be as thorough as possible without writing a book. You want
to leave something to talk about but supply enough information to give
the guy something to ask you about. I’m very forward and it’s difficult
to reach out to a guy and send the first message if he doesn’t tell me anything about himself in his profile.
- Log on regularly. A lot of these apps will list you according to the last
time you logged in. So, if you want to be seen, log in regularly. I also find it easy to get overwhelmed, especially as a new user. You will get bombarded the first week. Keep your messages clean, delete the guys you aren’t interested in and keep your conversations flowing with the
ones you want to meet.
- Be honest with yourself. Do you know what you want? What you’re looking for? Guys are going to ask, so be prepared. If you’re looking for
a serious relationship, make it known. If you’re looking for hookups, put it out there. All these sites have a fair share of men looking for hookups, if that isn’t you, let them know. Most men respect that and will move on. If they don’t, you can always block or delete them.
- Go out. Don’t be afraid to go out.. When I first started this journey I let my mother get in my head with all this “be careful, he might me a serial killer!” mess. But let’s be honest, how likely is that to happen. If you’re a responsible adult, you can safely meet a man in a public place without fear of him being anything more than what he appeared to be on his profile. I have a person (I actually have 2) and I always reach out to them with who I’m meeting and where. I’ll send them a picture of the guy and all the important information, just in case. But they’ve never had a need to use it. Be smart and you’ll be safe. Most importantly, have fun.
There isn’t one app that fits all but as long as you use these tips, be yourself,
and put yourself out there, you can have an enjoyable experience. Let me
know how it goes, share your tips with me, your experiences, and any advice in the comments below.