Mysterious men on OKC

Good afternoon!

So, my friend and I were just talking about how there are no interesting, open minded and unique people on here and then today I stumble across your profile – you seem like a pretty cool individual… much more than most on here. You seem like a free spirit and that is very much what I am looking for right now. I also love how intelligent and self-sufficient you seem to be – you really seem to be very responsible and the fact that you love your kids as much as you do speaks volumes to what kind of girl you are. I don’t think I have ever seen someone express how fun yet responsible they can be as well as you did in your profile, super mom! 🙂

On a side note, that upclose face pic in your profile is amazing – you legit look like an angel when you smile. I’m being 100% honest when I say this, but regardless of whether you reply to my message or not, please just know that your profile pictures paired with reading about what a warm and kind person you are truly did make my bad day a lot better.


The trophy for best pic goes to the farther out pic of you with that amazing smile! Wow!

Lastly, I feel you should know I am a Dominant personality type and you seem like you may share the same kinks as myself… which.. I find very intriguing and feel would make for even more interesting scenarios – not going to lie, your survey answers kind of surprised me! It’s not often you find someone into that type of thing in this area, but I know they’re out there somewhere!

And no, don’t worry – I’m not just out for sex or whatever, I just wanted to tell you about my lifestyle ahead of time so that didn’t come as a shock later on if we do end up talking.

Most people around here are so single-layered, so please do me the honor of getting to know you – you seem like such an interesting and fun person to know!

I really, truly hope to hear back from you. It’s so rare I find someone actually work talking to on this site. Feel free to kik me if you have kik *&^*&%$#^&016

You really are so real and so pleasant. Let’s talk.

Did this just overwhelm you? Because it sure did me. I received this message on OKC about a month ago and normally when I get a message of that length, I chalk it up to a man just copying and pasting the same message to a number of women, hoping someone will respond and I simply delete it. But this guy’s profile intrigued me, so I messaged him back and pretty much asked him if it was a “form letter”. He responded pretty quickly with an equally lengthy message explaining that no, it was not a “form letter” and pointing out more about my profile and answers to some of the questions that he liked. I still didn’t believe him but I was still intrigued by some of his responses so I continued to message him. We messaged for a few days and I enjoyed our conversations. And then one day, I logged in and his profile was deleted. WTF?!

I can’t say I was surprised, that seems to happen with these mysterious men who probably aren’t even real. I’ve heard about men getting the same type of messages from accounts that turn out to be fake, I don’t get it. What is the allure of all this? Has anyone else had the same experiences of what I’m assuming is fake profiles?

Dating Etiquette 

Just because we live in a technological age, it doesn’t mean we are allowed to forget our manners. We may be interacting with a screen, but it’s not just an image, it’s a person. 

Meet CableGuy. CableGuy reached out to me on POF (Plenty of Fish) a few days ago and this is how he did it: 

Now, don’t get ahead of yourselves because CableGuy is not who I’m referring to in this post. I found his message to be amusing but there was one problem…

After a good laugh, I asked CableGuy if he would like a do over and he impressed me so we chatted. And during our conversations I learned that he was going on a first date tonight with a woman he had been chatting with for months but had yet to meet. She set up the place because she had to work late and he was being gentlemen offering to drive over 30 minutes so she wouldn’t have to travel too far after work. 

So, CableGuy is sitting at a trashy bar in my hometown, only a few miles from where I currently live. He is waiting on his date but he is texting me. I learn that he isn’t really a drinker and he thinks bars aren’t ideal for a first date. He’s nervous because he’s uncomfortable at the weird, small town bar she chose. And his date is late. Thirty minutes after she was supposed to meet him he texts me and says he’s leaving. I ask him to call me because we were both driving. 

During our phone conversation he reveals (in a sexy, southern voice) that she walked into the bar with a friend. She had prior knowledge of where he was sitting because he texted and told her. Yet, she walks past him and parks herself at the other end of the bar, never making eye contact. In his nervous, uncomfortable state, he waits. He decides to send a text, which goes unanswered. He waits a little longer and then decides he had endured enough rejection for one night and gets up to leave. She never looks his way. 

I listened as he described how that made him feel. I allowed him to get it all off his chest. I felt embarrassed for him and pissed at her at the same time. 

Ladies, let me paint you a picture. CableGuy is 5’10”, athletic built, has short brown hair, hazel eyes, and a killer smile. I know this from his profile and the pictures he has posted. I am confident that when I meet him (which will be in a few days) he will not be any different from the above description. 

So, my question is why did SideTrack Trash (my name for his date) decide she was too good to have drinks with CableGuy? Why was she late for a date she arranged? At what point did she realize she wasn’t going to go through with the date? Why did she bring a friend? 

Don’t be like SideTrack Trash. Use the manners your parents or teachers instilled in you. 

  • Treat your date with respect. This should go without saying. 
  • Be on time. Arrive on time and if for any reason you will be late, inform your date and give an ETA. 
  • Give your date your undivided attention. Put your phone away, look him in the eyes, be present, and by all means DO NOT BRING YOUR BFF! 
  • Be considerate. Even if there is no chemistry, be considerate. Consider his time and effort and thank him for the evening. It’s ok to let him know that you don’t think there is a connection. 
  • Never stand up your date. If you need to cancel or reschedule contact him immediately. If you’ve had a change of heart or met someone else in the meantime, let him know. Guys don’t like being left out of the loop anymore than we do. 

My lesson from his experience is as follows: 

We all are on the same road. We’re looking for a companion, a friend, someone we can confide in. This journey can be exciting but it also can be scary and heartbreaking. Not every person we meet on this road is going to be our forever mate but we may make friends along the way. Be kind, be considerate, be respectful, have an open mind. You never know who you’ll come across next.